Life Lesson #20 – Ask for what you want and don’t stop asking until you get it.
Today’s lesson was inspired by our dog Bella, for reasons you will soon see. Meanwhile, here’s a picture of her.
Who is Bella?
Bella is a Yorkshire Terrier who only weighs about six pounds and yet rules our household – we call her ‘The Commander” because she basically gets whatever she wants. Now this is not to say that we just give in to her automatically – quite often we’ll tell her “No,” however Bella doesn’t really take “No” for an answer because Bella understands the Power of Persistence. It’s a Life Lesson that I have learned from Bella and which I want to share with you now.
Bella Asks for What She Wants
The fact is that during the course of our lives we are all going to be told “NO” many times over. When we hear the word “No” we can either choose to accept it (which is what most people do) or we can reject it and keep asking for what we want. Bella chooses to keep asking. Bella is persistent. As a result, Bella pretty much eventually always gets what she wants. I believe you should consider doing the same.
You Should Ask for What You Want Too
I don’t know if you read The Bible or not and I’m not here to preach to you but there is a lot of wisdom to be found inside that great book; one such example is from The Gospel of Matthew, Chapter 7, in which Jesus instructs his disciples to “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.”
If you really want something you have to ASK for it and even if you get told “No” you have to KEEP ASKING. Now I’m not going to sit here and tell you that you will always get what you want – the fact is that you probably don’t really NEED everything you are asking for and it’s probably a good thing that you do net get everything you ask for because then you’ll just end up spoiled (and yes Bella is spoiled and that’s not necessarily a good thing!). But, if there is something that you really want and it would honestly do you good to have it, then I recommend that you keep asking for it. Don’t give up. If it’s that’s important to you, persist until you get what you want – sooner or later you will. If you’d like to read more examples of the Bible that illustrate this, check out the following inspiring stories:
1) The Parable of the Persistent Widow (Luke 18:1-8) https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke%2018:1-8
2) The Faith of the Canaanite Woman (Matthew 15: 21-28)
3) Blind Bartimaeus Receives His Sight (Mark 10: 46-52)
The Right Way to Ask
When you are talking to the person you are making the request of, be sure to clearly explain WHY and HOW getting what you want will honestly help you. In addition, I recommend you also tell that person what’s in it for them – perhaps if they help you with whatever you want, you can in turn help them with something, or maybe what you want will benefit both of you, or etc. – you get the idea. It can’t be just all about you. Make it important to them too. Make them want to help you.
What if You Don’t Get What You Want Right Away?
You should consider being persistent over time. Always remember this “God’s Delays Are Not God’s Denials” and that applies to what you ask of other people too, so just because you get told ‘No’ today doesn’t mean you’ll get told “No” tomorrow, or next week, or next year. Don’t assume someone will keep saying “No,” you’ll never know unless you keep asking. Consider changing your perspective (remember that life lesson?), and think of it this way ‘for every NO you get told, you’re now one step closer to getting a YES next time!’
Don’t Wait, Use This Wisdom Today…
If you keep asking, and you talk about what’s in it for everybody, you’ll be amazed at how you start getting more of what you want. So be persistent! Don’t give up!
Be like Bella and keep asking!
Meanwhile, Bella will keep an eye out for you (I suggest you follow her advice. Lord knows you don’t want to argue with her!)
Did You Know?
Today’s lesson was adapted from a book Jax and I wrote called Diary of a Minecraft Dad